Please know this…Knowing if a girl likes you and knowing if a girl is falling in l0ve with you are two very different things. Signs of interest can be easy to recognize, but a woman falling in l0ve will be harder to see.
Not only is it more rare, but the signs are, in many ways, even more complex and subtle.
And yet understanding how she feels, particularly as your connection matures and deepens, is important for a healthy relationship. In this piece, we’ll explore the most prominent signs of l0ve, and why they’re so important to spot…go them all below…
1.She cuts off other guys
In this age, it’s not uncommon for girls to date several people at once. She’s playing the field and playing the market to see what’s out there.
It’s only when she really starts making a connection with one man that she puts the brakes on other relationships to focus on the one she cares about the most. Once this happens, you can be sure she’s taking you more seriously.
When she signals exclusivity to you, she thinks you’re worth investing all of her romantic time and effort into. That’s something people generally only do when they’re starting to fall in love.
2.She starts making plans for the both of you
Plans for the both of you can be big or small. Small plans include dates or even weekends away for the two of you. Larger plans include weekend trips, family events and full vacations.
More than the specific activity, however, it’s the assumption behind a plan that sends a signal: If she plans a date that’s six months away, for example, she clearly doesn’t expect the two of you to break up. You generally find that kind of long-term commitment from people who are in love.
Then, of course, there are Big Plans. Talking about the two of you moving in together is probably the most obvious example, but it doesn’t have to be quite so extreme. She might, for instance, ask you questions about transferring her job at work.
Would you go with her? Would you do the long-distance thing? She’s planning for herself, of course, but she’s including you in those plans — building a life that involves you for the long haul, and considering your interests along the way. When someone starts planning their life around you, it’s usually because they’re in love.
3.She gives you meaningful gifts
Gifts speak volumes, especially when they’re given by a woman. When a woman gets you a gift, she likely put some thought into it as a signal of how much she cares.
A meaningful gift doesn’t have to be (and often isn’t) very expensive. On the contrary, a meaningful gift is one that lets you know that she really gets you, that communicates her affection without regard for money.
Maybe you mentioned a book that you really want to read, and a few days later she surprises you with a paperback copy. Or maybe you talked about a cartoon you liked as a kid, and she grabs you an old copy at a yard sale for your office.
4.She finds your faults and quirks endearing
Everyone has faults and quirks that can rub other people the wrong way. But love does a funny thing to people. It transforms those idiosyncrasies from something irritating into something endearing. This might be one of the clearest signs of love.
Telling you how “cute” your differences are isn’t just accepting and appreciating you for who you are. It’s her trying to tell you she gets you in a way that other people don’t, likely because she loves you.
5.She talks about you as a couple
Listen for the collective pronoun “we” when your girl starts talking about you. With that small shift, she’s considering you as a unit, and it might be because she’s in love. You’re no longer just some guy she’s dating, even if the two of you are exclusive.
You’re someone whose happiness she sees as inseparable from her own. This is a more subtle version of her starting to make plans for the two of you, but don’t be surprised if they come together. Language reflects emotion.
6.She tells you
This should be obvious, but sometimes our own perceptual filters get in the way. It can be easy to hear a girl say that she loves you and still doubt that she’s “really” in love with you. But if she chooses to drop this on you for the first time, she’s probably in love.
We don’t risk such large statements if there isn’t at least a kernel of truth to them. If she says the words, then she probably means it — or at least feels some very strong emotions that are creating the experience of love. So listen for and acknowledge the significance of those three words.
What to do when you think she’s in love with you
Once you realize that she’s in love with you, it’s time to act on that knowledge. You might just want to celebrate that you’re both feeling the same way — that’s one of the most exciting discoveries in a relationship.
But if her feelings are more serious than yours, or you’re just not feeling the same way, you might want to have a respectful and open conversation with her.